Recap of 9/22: Rape Myths and culture

Hello, beings of the universe!

In case you didn’t read the title, this is the recap of the 9/22 discussion on rape myths and culture. True to our word, there was Indian food provided that was definitely enjoyed by some, hopefully enjoyed by all. We started the evening with asking what counts as sexual assault. There were a number of insightful responses, one of which mentioned “sexual mental assault” which nicely transitioned us to the definition of sexual harassment. We presented Lafayette’s definition which anyone can find in the Student Handbook located here: http://studentlife.lafayette.edu/files/2013/02/StudentHandbook12-13_revF.pdf

We discussed definitions for consent. The issues involved whenever alcohol comes into the equation were mentioned multiple times. Then we moved onto rape myths. The first and unfortunately common myth to be mentioned was “She asked for it.” The variety of myths mentioned were impressive and depressing. Thankfully, it appeared that most of us agreed that these myths were not true. The previous discussion was referred to when talking about what contributes to rape culture on college campuses. Why survivors often don’t report, how Lafayette deals with sexual assault, and what policy changes can improve the conditions survivors must face were all discussed. Since we are not Lafayette staff, we brainstormed what we can do when someone tells us she/he has been sexually assaulted. If recently, it was suggested to go with the individual to get a rape kit. It was stressed to allow the individual to decide what to do. They were already victimized and lost control. The least we can do is not take it from them again. Respect and always hearing the individual out was also mentioned.

A few things to say that we didn’t formally say in the discussion follows:

·   How can I help?

·   You didn’t deserve it

·   I support you no matter what

·   What would you like to do next?

The discussion was very lively despite such a serious topic. We were lucky to have an engaged and caring group of individuals for this discussion. If you would like to comment, add something we missed, or continue part of the conversation, don’t hesitate to leave a comment!