How to Help a Friend with Self-Injurious Behavior

Let them know that you care and will listen
Be supportive and available – spend time doing enjoyable activities together
Understand that self-harming behavior is an attempt to maintain a certain amount of control and that it is a way of self-soothing
Encourage them to express their emotions, especially anger
Avoid telling them to stop the behavior or making judgmental comments
Offer to help them find help, such as meeting with a counselor
Recognize that you are not responsible for their behavior and that you can not force them to change
Seek support for yourself by talking to a friend, RA, or counselor

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