http://www.wsbt.com/news/local/niles-schools-new-dress-code-cracks-down-on-leggings-yoga-pants/28392360
When Sam mentioned this article in class I was immediately reminded of a moment that my senior class had in high school. In high school we had assemblies almost every other day in which the whole school would gather in the gymnasium for what we called chapel. But, there was one day in particular when my class, the seniors, were asked to stay after chapel because our deans wanted to talk to us. This class meeting began with our dean reprimanding us for a prank in which some kids stole a street sign from the neighborhood near our campus, but then something interesting (and related to this article) happened. The deans asked the all of the male students to leave because there was something they wanted to talk to the girls about. A little bit confused, but more than happy to get out of the endless assembly, all of the guys left. Not long after when the girls were released, we found out that the the girls had been told that they were dressing too promiscuously and needed to wear clothing that was more appropriate because they were supposed to be role models for the underclassmen. At the time I remember laughing with my friends, male and female, about the absurdity of having being held into our lunch period to tell the girls in the class that they were dressing inappropriately. Looking back on the class meeting, it applies quite nicely to the discussions we’ve been having in class regarding rape culture.
Women are constantly exposed to contradicting messages of sexuality, and none of these messages allow women freedom of expression to be exercised without extreme scrutiny. On one hand there are people, as in the article and even at my own high school, who tell young women that their dressing promiscuously has a direct correlation to how they are treated by men. And on the other hand there is the media which has an amazing ability to perpetuate the sexualization of women. i.e. Women are told not to dress promiscuously in order to avoid enticing sexual harassment by men, but media conversely depicts an unrealistic and overtly sexual image of how women should look in order to be successful.
When dealing with a rape, or sexual assault, there is terrible habit that people fall into of blaming the victim. When a woman is raped the mentality that “she was asking for it” is all too often used as an excuse to justify the rape, and this excuse is further defended with examples of how slutty she was dressed or how intoxicated she was. However, this excuse just isn’t fair no matter how you look at it. The “she was asking for it” excuse unjustly teaches girls that it is their fault they are sexually harassed by men because of some misconceived notion that men cannot control themselves. Not only can this be detrimental to a woman’s self-image, as she may simply be dressing up for herself (I mean who doesn’t like to look good?) not because she’s asking for it, but can also be harmful to how women view themselves in relation to men.
There is an interesting social construct which I have found comes up from time to time that highlights one of the issues being brought up here. The construct is that women who are sexually active are seen as being slutty, but women who aren’t sexually active are perceived as prudish, whereas men who are sexually active are seen as players verses men who are not sexually active are considered to be not masculine. For women this social construct is a no win scenario and for men there is immense pressure to be overly sexual.
To connect the dots… Women are told from a very young age that their sexuality is something that needs to be hidden or repressed through messages that often manifest themselves in seemingly benign moments such as a high school asking the girls to dress more appropriately. These messages of sexual repression are then confirmed when a woman is sexually harassed by a man and the instigator tries to place blame on the victim through some ill-conceived rational regarding his belief that she was asking for it. And to further complicate things, the rational of the instigator is perpetuated by the very social construct that defines sexually active women as slutty and non-sexually active men as emasculated. Because male fear of emasculation exists, men are pressured into fulfilling the ‘macho man’ stereotype which includes the objectification of women as a means of sexual pursuit. However, the pressure to fulfill the ‘macho man’ stereotype is often overlooked in the wake of sexual assault, and in many cases is mistaken for, or replaced with, the “she was asking for it” excuse. Although both are undeniably poor justifications for sexual assault, one reason the macho man excuse might be mistaken for the “she was asking for it” excuse is because the macho man is going to look for and pursue a woman who is dressed provocatively, regardless of the woman’s intention behind said attire, because she is aesthetically sexually stimulating (think male gaze) and therefore she can more easily be targeted as an object of sexual desire. Now a woman who dresses up to look good is not necessarily asking for men to sexually objectify her, but it is an unintended consequence when taking into consideration the societal construct which pressures men to be more masculine. These unintended consequences are then used to justify the messages of sexual repression women are so often exposed to.
All of this bring us full circle – The media perpetuates women’s desire to assert sexuality as means of personal expression > men succumb to fear of being emasculated as a side effect of social constructs > instigators of assault justify their actions by deferring blame onto victims > women are presented with messages of sexual repression > wash, rinse, repeat.
What do all of you think about this? How do we deal with the constant bombardment of contradicting messages of femininity and masculinity in our lives and in the media? What can we do to break this vicious circle?